One of the world’s great mysteries must be how a child, so new to the world and uneducated in matters of human relationships, can so effectively get under the skin of a perfectly rational adult. Adults who spend much of their time dealing with children, namely teachers, should be immune to such “childish” matters, or so you would think. After all, the long road teachers travel to earn their credentials is full of mandatory child psychology classes taught by experts in the field. The problem is that most of these experts spend their days teaching rational adults and not be assaulted by dozens of attacking third graders.
Remaining in Control
Everyone gets stressed at times. Maybe it is something at home, the workload or a mix of several factors. This is completely normal and teachers rarely take it out on their students. However, occasionally, a child seems more like some evil genius who knows exactly what buttons to push and what levers to pull to put the nearest adult into a blind rage. This is where anger management techniques kick in. It is at this point where one is in danger of losing control and doing something they will regret. Though you cannot completely control the actions of the offending kid, you can remain in complete control of yourself and win the battle.
Counting to Ten
Everyone has heard of the counting to ten technique, though most people usually do not employ it. That is the problem with acute anger. It comes on so quickly that one often reacts before any rational thinking such as counting to ten can enter the mind. Like many things, it is necessary to practice before it becomes natural and replaces the tendency to react physically, whether it be internalization or an external show of anger.
You must first start with the little episodes. Times when you find yourself mildly bothered, but not quite at the angry level, is where you should start. Each time you have that familiar feeling rising in your chest, use the count to ten technique and let the feeling float away. As you count, think of something relaxing to take your mind away from cause of your anger. When you return, things will not seem so serious and you will be able to shake it off. As you continue to practice this anger management technique it will become easier and easier to use.
No one expects teachers to have the patience of priests (who also occasionally use the technique) but they are expected to know how to handle problem children. The real secret is not in controlling the child, but in controlling oneself. Many problem kids will get tired of trying to anger you if they see it is not working. A few weeks of practicing the count to ten anger management technique will have you responding to these miniature terrors with the calm of a Buddhist monk. And you will come out on the other side feeling more in control of your classroom no matter what is thrown at you.
Anger Management Class
Anger management is very important to be skilled by teachers as well as principals. A teacher who can well manage his/her anger can better teach students to do so. Schools must organize anger management classes both for teachers and students. These are some of the benefits of anger management by teachers that can improve the effectiveness of their job.
Anger that is not controlled leads to poor decision making. Once you can better manage your anger you will exercise better judgement and also have more control over your impulses.
Being able to manage your stress better is one of the long term benefits that you will immediately see how to do. This is an objective that is taught in anger management. With better control of yourself, you will find that it is easier for you to avoid situations that would otherwise become stressful.
You will find that you go through less conflict. There will be fewer problems with co-workers, family members, parents, and children. You will learn the skills that lead to more peaceful interactions with other people.
Often times anger and angry situations would have been avoided if the people involved knew how to communicate better. Many problems are solved when people know how to be assertive. When people do not know how to assert themselves properly angry behavior is often used instead.
Another benefit of anger management classes is that you will be more comfortable in your personal relationships. There are many people who do not like being around the people they love because of anger. You will be able to avoid this difficulty.
Anger management training will teach you how to be more empathetic. This is where you feel what another person is feeling. You will find everywhere that you go that the people who can empathize are highly respected. With this skill, you will be able to get people to cooperate with you more easily too.
Know your responsibility
You will recognize what you are responsible for in the way you think of anger. By that I mean that you will know when you are the cause of a problem and when you are innocent. When you are not at fault, you will also be able to know how to keep a situation calm and yet still assign the blame to where it should rightly be.